For the last three years or so, I have dived into the idea that by changing the way I think, I can change my reality. Yet, still diving, as I am learning that it is an ongoing process. I strongly believe that one of the main reasons to exploring our minds is to discover what originally hurt us. What caused the pain that has kept us in a repeating loop of harmful patterns. That although we may be in a different space and time we continue to respond and/or react with the same emotions and behaviors which may have caused the original hurtful experience. But, as we begin exploring life from a different perspective and as our reality begins to shift more areas of our mind are revealed so that we can transmute that energy, clear and release it. Hence, healing can begin, when we are courageous enough to unearth the wounds we hid in our unconscious. Wounds which may have influenced the beliefs and patterns that have kept us stuck, unable to create a new and more vibrant reality.
Influenced by the works of Dr. Bruce Lipton, Dr. Joe Dispenza and Dr. Sarah McKay to name a few; I realized that the battleground to transforming my life was in the mind. It was a matter of becoming aware of my thinking habits, patterns and programming which were set from the time I was born. Learning how my brain was wired during my formative years through culture, my environment, what was directly or indirectly taught, and my experiences influenced the life I had created thus far. Furthermore, it was still shaping my present and would unequivocally impact my future if I did not take responsibility for the way I was thinking, as our thoughts directly influence our choices and behaviors. I feel the need to quote Dr. Joe Dispenza here – “Same thoughts always lead to the same choices, same choices lead to the same behavior and the same behaviors lead to same experiences and the same experiences produce the same emotions and these emotions drive the very same thoughts.” It’s a continuous loop!
Nonetheless, awareness was knocking at the door of my consciousness and it was up to me if I would open myself to the pain, the behaviors, the patterns, forgiveness and ultimately healing. I am not going to say or pretend by any means that the work is easy, it is not. It is hard to revisit old wounds but, most of all it is even more challenging to take responsibility for our part in it. Yes! We all have a part we play in what we experience regardless of what the role may be, depending on our level of awareness, we choose the part consciously or unconsciously. I also must add that choosing not to take part in our experience is still a choice. I found myself idle in many instances in my life when I could have chosen to do something to change my circumstances but, it was easier or more comfortable to just do nothing.
Taking ownership for what happened in our lives and processing it, looks different for every person and it takes some of us longer than others to steer through the currents of hurt. Self-blame, denial, anger among other emotions will emerge not to attack us but for us face them with truth and with the power of who we are becoming. Our weapons for combating the voices, the surges of guilt, the hate, the pain, etc. are compassion for all involved, especially for ourselves, positive self-talk, self-care (taking a break, candlelit baths, massages, etc.) and choosing to love ourselves, seeing the self as lovable and enough. This begins in the mind, taming the voices that attempt to rob us of that truth, that we are loved! Once the soothing balm of awareness, self-forgiveness and compassion for self comes so does freedom. Freedom to be who one truly is unapologetically. Looking at the world with a new pair of lenses knowing that you are loved, you are enough, and you can stand in your own power, with no apologies given because there is no need to.
That was the greatest gift I gave myself, choosing to believe LOVE beginning with me, myself and I! I renounced self-loathing, victim mentality, negative thinking, guilt and shame by choosing to take responsibility for my life and my reality. Each day, with every thought and choice I make I am creating my reality and building my greatest life yet. Love is my gauge. Knowing that if my intentions are based on love, I am confident that a masterpiece will emerge. We must become love, be rooted and grounded in love and as we do, we will attract more of it into our reality. Are you aware of what gauge or intention is directing your path? If not, it is time to take a deep dive into your mind…….
Evolving Mind, Body and Soul 